The Good Girl Mother
You were taught how to be a good girl. Then you became a mom to a child who doesn't follow the same rules.
A 45-minute masterclass to uncover what's really driving your biggest parenting
reactions, so you can stop feeling hijacked by the same triggers and have more choice in
the moments that matter most.
If you've ever thought:
“I KNOW better. Why can't I DO better when I'm triggered?”
This is the class I made for you.
45 minutes · On demand · Immediate access · $47 $97
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You Know How You Want to Parent. So Why Does It All Go Out the Window in the Moment?
You know you don't want to yell. You know your child is allowed to be angry. You've read the books, learned the scripts, and probably done a lot of work on yourself.
And then your child does that one thing.
They ignore you after you've asked five times. They yell at you. They say “NO.” They complain after you've spent the entire day doing things for them. They get angry when you set a completely reasonable boundary.
Suddenly, you're not responding the way you planned to respond. Maybe you yell or get controlling. Maybe you overexplain because you need them to understand. Maybe you give in because their disappointment is too uncomfortable.
And when the moment is over, you're left wondering:
Why did that get to me so badly?
Because your child's behavior is only part of the trigger.
The other part is what their behavior means to you.
Your child says no, but you hear disrespect. They don't like the gift, but you see ingratitude. They're angry about your boundary, but suddenly you're questioning whether you did something wrong.
The behavior happened in the present. The meaning you gave it may have been formed long before you became a mother.
The Good Girl Grew Up and Became a Mom
Long before motherhood, you were learning what it meant to be “good.”
Maybe you learned that being good meant being respectful, grateful, helpful, easy, agreeable, responsible, or not too difficult. Maybe nobody ever explicitly told you those rules. You still learned what made relationships easier, what made the adults around you proud, what created tension, and what version of you was easiest to love.
Then you became a mother to a child who hasn't learned your rules.
Your child says the no you learned to swallow. They get angry openly. They disagree with you. They need you when you're tired. They disappoint people. They don't always feel grateful on demand. They take up space without wondering whether everyone around them is comfortable with it.
And logically, you may know they're allowed to do those things.
But that doesn't mean it feels okay when they do.
Your child may trigger you most in the places where they're free to be something you learned not to be.
So sometimes when you're desperately trying to change your child's behavior, what you're actually trying to do is restore a rule that made relationships make sense to you.
That's why the reaction can feel so urgent.
Not Everything You Learned Was Wrong
This isn't about blaming your parents, rejecting how you were raised, or deciding that
every expectation you grew up with was harmful.
It's about learning to tell the difference between a value you genuinely want to pass on
and a rule you've never consciously questioned.
Respect is a value.
“My child should never challenge me” is a rule.
Gratitude is a value.
“My child shouldn't be disappointed with what they're given” is a rule.
Kindness is a value.
“My child shouldn't make someone else uncomfortable” is a rule.
Those are not the same lessons.
When you can't see the difference, an old rule can sound exactly like good parenting.
And you can find yourself trying to stop your child's anger, disagreement, disappointment, or “no” without realizing that the behavior itself may not be the thing you're reacting to.
Once you can see what's actually happening, you can ask a much more useful question:
What here actually needs parenting?
And Sometimes the Good Girl Becomes the Good Mom
Maybe you became self-aware. You started questioning the way you were raised. You promised yourself your child would have something different.
And without realizing it, the assignment changed.
Now you need to be the patient mom. The regulated mom. The emotionally safe mom. The mom who doesn't yell. The mom who repairs correctly. The mom who breaks the cycle.
Suddenly, your child's behavior becomes your report card.
If they're angry with you, maybe your boundary was too harsh. If you lose your temper, maybe you're becoming your mother. If they're struggling, you wonder what you did wrong.
“Am I good?” became “Am I a good mother?”
And you can spend your entire motherhood trying to raise a child who doesn't have to prove their goodness while you're still trying to prove yours.
That's why knowing more about parenting isn't always enough.
The good girl doesn't disappear because you understand conscious parenting. Sometimes she just becomes very good at conscious parenting.
This Is Why Another Parenting Script Hasn’t Fixed It
A script can tell you what to say.
It can't tell you why your child's “no” feels like disrespect to you, why their
disappointment makes you want to give in, why their anger makes you immediately start explaining, or why one mistake can send you into a spiral about whether you're
damaging your child.
Until you understand what you're actually reacting to, it's incredibly difficult to change the reaction.
You don't need another reminder to stay calm. You need to understand why this
particular moment keeps taking you there. the reaction.
Because once you can separate what actually happened from what you made it mean,
you can stop asking your child to solve something that actually belongs to you.
And that's where parenting begins to change.
In 45 Minutes, You’ll Learn:
Why certain behaviors trigger you so much more than others
So your reactions stop feeling random and you can understand what’s actually being activated.
How to separate what your child did from what you made it mean
So you can see the difference between the behavior in front of you and the story your mind immediately attaches to it.
How being the “good girl” can follow you into motherhood
Even if you were rebellious, outspoken, or never thought of yourself as a good girl.
How to uncover the rules underneath your recurring parenting triggers
And identify what you learned you were supposed to be instead when you were your child’s age.
How to tell the difference between a value you want to pass on and a rule you’re passing down automatically
So you can teach respect without requiring silence, gratitude without denying disappointment, and kindness without teaching your child to abandon themselves.
How the good girl can turn into the good mom
And why trying to parent perfectly can become another version of the same pattern you’re trying to break.
You'll leave with something far more useful than “I need to stay calmer.”
You'll understand what's underneath one of your own recurring triggers and what
actually needs parenting when it happens.
This Is for the Mom Who Already Knows It’s Not Just Her Child
You know you're being triggered. You know some of your reactions are bigger than the
moment in front of you. You've probably already done a lot of parenting work, and that's
exactly why it's so frustrating.
You know how you want to parent.
You just can't understand why certain moments still seem to take that choice away from you.
Maybe you keep apologizing for reactions you genuinely want to change. Maybe you give in because your child's disappointment feels unbearable. Maybe you overexplain
because you need them to understand your boundary. Maybe you know your child is
allowed to be angry, but their anger still makes something in you need it to stop.
You don't need another strategy for fixing your child's behavior.
You need to understand what's happening in you so you can respond to the child in front of you instead of automatically responding from a rule you learned years ago.
What You Get
THE GOOD GIRL MOTHER
45 focused minutes.
THE GOOD GIRL MOTHER is a focused 45-minute on-demand masterclass that helps you uncover what's underneath the parenting reactions you keep trying to change.
You'll get immediate access when you enroll and lifetime access so you can pause, revisit the class, and come back whenever you need it.
ONE PAYMENT:
$47 $97
I’m Reem Raouda
I'm a Certified Conscious Parenting Coach trained by Dr. Shefali and trauma-informed through the work of Dr. Gabor Maté. My work has been featured by Forbes, CNBC, NBC, HuffPost, and national television.
But I also came to this work because I had to face it in my own parenting.
When my son was young, I thought his sleep and behavior were the problem. I was reactive, anxious, and constantly trying to figure out what I needed to change in him.
Then I realized something that changed our relationship completely:
He wasn't the problem. I was where the work needed to start.
When I began looking at my own reactions and what I was bringing into our relationship, the change in our home was drastic.
That's why I care so much about helping mothers stop trying to fix the behavior in front of them long enough to understand what's actually happening underneath it.
You Already Know How You Want to Parent
Now let's look at what's getting in the way when you're triggered.
In 45 minutes, I'll help you uncover the rules underneath the parenting moments that keep taking you over, so you can understand what you're actually reacting to, decide what you genuinely want to pass on, and have more choice in how you respond.
THE GOOD GIRL MOTHER
45 minutes · On demand · Immediate access
$47
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